{great love stories № 13 | humphrey bogart & lauren bacall}

by joey bailey for {this is glamorous} | editing & image compilation by roséline | view previous articles


For some of the greatest love stories of all time, age is but a number -- their love is so vivid, it disregards years and thrives only on the passion two people feel for each other.

The great romance of Humphrey Bogart & Lauren Bacall is one such story -- instantly smitten with one another, many would have been concerned with the vast gap in their age;
but Humphrey & Lauren (or Bogie & Baby, as they so fondly called one another) were besotted, and looked beyond the mere number that is their age, and instead, let love flourish through their mutual interests, their instant attraction to one another, and the sparks that flew whenever they were in a room together . . .


Humphrey Bogart was one of the manliest of actors -- often cast as the ‘tough guy’, he had just been signed to the movie To Have and Have Not, and the director, Howard Hawks, was on the lookout for the perfect female lead to work opposite him.

One morning, while flicking through the latest Harper’s Bazaar, Howard’s wife noticed an absolutely stunning girl on the cover. With high cheekbones, soft auburn hair, and a tall athletic build, Mrs Hawks immediately showed the cover to her husband suggesting he call her in for a screen test. [Editor's Note -- it was Diana Vreeland, of last week's love story, who put Lauren Bacall on that cover of Harper's Bazaar, altering not only the course of Bacall's life and career, but impacting the history of American cinema]


At that time, Lauren had no yet changed her name and was known as Betty Bacall. She was a young, 19 year old girl working as a model, and had never dreamed of the possibility of Hollywood! Of course, Lauren was a natural at the screen test, and Humphrey even remarked, "I just saw your test. We'll have a lot of fun together". Howard Hawks decided ‘Betty Bacall’ simply would not do for a future silver screen star and insisted she change her name to Lauren.


Through out the movie, Humphrey took on the role of mentor and teacher, and the pair instantly formed an intimate bond. However, unfortunately at that time, Humphrey was involved in a loveless marriage to actress Mayo Methot. The pair began a very discreet affair, which was quite out of the norm for Humphrey -- he was torn between loyalty to his wife, despite them being almost estranged, and the deep feelings he felt for his new love.


The affair continued for some months until finally, in February 1945, Humphrey & Mayo divorced. On May 21, 1946 on a farm in Pleasant Valley, Richland County, Ohio, Humphrey, aged 46, & Lauren, aged 20, were married. The farm belonged to Humphrey’s good friend, Pulitzer winning author, Louis Bromfield.


“In the bathroom I could hear the start of the Wedding March. Oh God, why hadn’t they waited? Later George told me Bogie looked up and said, ‘Where is she?’ George’s romantic reply: ‘Hold it! She’s in the can!’ I emerged -- [the piano player] started again -- and George and I started our descent. My knees shook so, I was sure I’d fall down the stairs. Bogie standing there looking so vulnerable and so handsome . . .
“When I reached Bogie, he took my hand -- the enormous, beautiful white orchids I was holding were shaking themselves to pieces; as I stood there, there wasn’t a particle of me that wasn’t moving visibly…As I glanced at Bogie, I saw tears streaming down his face -- his ‘I do’ was strong and clear, though. As Judge Shettler said, “I now pronounce you man and wife,’ Bogie and I turned toward each other -- he leaned to kiss me -- I shyly turned my cheek -- all those eyes watching made me very self-conscious. He said, ‘Hello, Baby’. I hugged him and was reported to have said, “Oh, goody.’ Hard to believe, but maybe I did.”

“Everyone hugged and kissed everyone else and more tears were shed. Bogie said it was when he heard the beautiful words of the ceremony and realized what they meant -- what they should mean -- that he cried.”

--Excerpts from By Myself and Then Some by Lauren Bacall



In all, the pair acted in four big screen movies together, as well as countless television and radio series. They were one of the most successful acting couples in history. Settling down with their two children in Holmby Hills, Los Angeles, the pair seemed to live an idyllic, immensely private life.


It was on the New Year's of 1956, while out to lunch at Romanoffs that Bogie, a heavy smoker for many years, began coughing terribly. He visited his doctor, and it was discovered that he had cancer of the oesophagus. Two short months later, he endured a nine and a half hour operation to remove his oesophagus and returned home in a wheelchair. Frail and weak, Humphrey would live out the rest of his days bedridden.


His adoring wife was constantly at his side, tending to his every need, and accommodating all visitors as best she could. On January 12, 1957, good friends Spencer Tracy & Katharine Hepburn called to visit. Katharine recounted of their visit that, as they left, "He (Bogie) looked up at Spencer with the most rueful smile and said, 'Goodbye Spence,' and you could tell that he meant it. He'd always said, 'Goodnight' before. When we went downstairs, Spence looked at me and said, 'Bogie's going to die.'"



The next morning, Lauren went to pick their children up from Sunday school. Humphrey nodded as she left and nonchalantly said, “Good bye, kid”. Upon her return, Lauren found Humphrey in a coma -- a coma he was never to wake from. The next morning, at 2:25am, Humphrey passed away and Lauren was left a widow at 32.



"I hope Bogie knew how much I loved him, how much he meant to me, how I highly valued him. I've had another life since then, but he was my first love. And you never forget your first love" -- Lauren Bacall


At the funeral, Lauren placed a whistle in Humphrey’s coffin, cleverly referencing the famous line from their first film together; "You know how to whistle, don't you? You just put your lips together and blow".


While many would have been appalled at the difference in age, this couple knew that a true love -- a great love -- could not be ignored or disregarded purely because of a number.


They persevered through any hurdles, and at the end came out stronger then ever. The marriage itself, tragically, was not a long one -- but the love it was made of will endure forever.




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* great love stories № 02 : nacho figueras & delfina blaquier
* great love stories № 03 : shah jahan & mumtaz mahal
* great love stories № 04 : elizabeth taylor & richard burton
* great love stories № 05 : prince william & kate middleton
* great love stories № 06 : audrey hepburn & robert wolders
* great love stories № 07 : napoleon bonaparte & maria walewska
* great love stories № 08 : john f. kennedy jr. & carolyn bessette
* great love stories № 09 : paul newman & joanne woodward
* great love stories № 10 : ricky & ralph lauren
* great love stories № 11 : frank sinatra & ava gardner

* great love stories № 12 : diana & reed vreeland


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Blogger Ann On and On... said...

I had no idea. I can't thank you enough for taking the time to write such a wonderful, picture-filled post. I will definitely be reading her book.

July 02, 2012  
Anonymous Nisha said...

Hmmm, beautiful :-)

July 02, 2012  
Blogger lindsay said...


July 02, 2012  
Blogger Jennifer Sanzo said...

I love this series... beautifully written... great pictures... don't you just love a good love story?

July 02, 2012  
Blogger Elizabeth {Ms Classic Glamour} said...

Such lovely pictures and what a heartwarming story... beautiful! She was such a beauty... no wonder he fell for her. :)

July 02, 2012  
Anonymous Miss Megan said...

I so look forward to Great Love Story posts! Thank you for the gorgeous pictures & little romantic details of these timeless loves.

July 02, 2012  
Anonymous Karen said...

Wonderful post. I didn't know she had a book. It's definitely on my to read-list.

July 02, 2012  
Anonymous Jillian clemmons said...

Love their love story. Thanks for finding all the cute pics and posting:)

July 02, 2012  
Blogger Tiffany said...

humphrey bogart is one of my favorite old time stars. i loved everything about how he played. and lauren was so beautiful!

July 02, 2012  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was waiting for this one, im such a huge Humphrey Bogart fan. Thanks

July 02, 2012  
Anonymous Peggy said...

Your great love story posts are brilliant. I showed them to my husband and he loved them till he saw that Bogie & Bacall were missing. Without them he felt the whole series lacked merit. Ha! :)
Clearly, I will show this post to him tonight. I'm sure he will get a kick out of it!
I look forward to the next installment!

July 02, 2012  
Blogger Anna G said...

Oh I really want to read about Lauran Bacall and Humphrey Bogart's relationship. It sounds so beautiful and romantic.

July 02, 2012  
Anonymous Souls of a Feather said...

So beautiful, thank you.

July 02, 2012  
Blogger christina said...



July 02, 2012  
Blogger lorenabr said...

Love it! Great images and a wonderful couple! Nice post!

July 03, 2012  
Blogger chateaudelille said...

Thats so sad that she only had him for 12 short years of marriage. What became of her since? Fiona

July 03, 2012  
Blogger Amour-Love said...

Chateaudelille -- Lauren has continued acting to this day, recently appearing in television shows such as The Sopranos, & films including Firedog & The Forger. She has also written three autobiographical books, the most recent being By Myself & Then Some (an updated version of the first she wrote in 1978).

July 03, 2012  
Blogger Ashma said...

If I may add a quote to supplement this beautiful piece?

It was all clear blue sky all the way - as I was sure our life would be. I couldn’t forget Bogie’s tears. Every time I looked at him I welled up. How had I lived before him? I couldn’t remember my life before him - it all ran together, like watercolors. It seemed that everything that had ever happened to me had led to this day with him. I don’t know whether it was his particular personality, his strength and purity of thought, or whether all brides feel that way. Probably a combination. I had no doubt that this happiness would last forever. I could not imagine living a minute without him. From now on I would not have to - we were together now, like the man said, “till death do you part.”

- Lauren on the wedding day.

July 03, 2012  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow this story is so beautiful. It's a shame that a love story so great was devastating for his previous wife. But I guess it goes to show that you can't help who you fall in love with!

July 04, 2012  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Love this series so much! I look forward to each new post. (But just for the record, it's KathArine Hepburn, not KatheErine.) :)

July 05, 2012  
Blogger {this is glamorous} said...

anonymous -- thanks for the catch :)

July 05, 2012  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for putting this page together, it's so relevant to me since I've recently fallen for a much younger woman. And she's fallen for me too. We are the same ages Bogart and Bacall were when they met. I don't know what to do. And I'm farily certain that nobody will understand this. Wouldn't it be great to have a sign directly from God?

July 31, 2012  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Have visited Malabar many times where the Bogarts were married and recognize the background in their wedding pictures. Please make thr correction that Malabar is in RichLAND county, Ohio, not RichMOND as you have stated. Thanks!

September 15, 2013  
Blogger {this is glamorous} said...

anonymous -- changes made -- thanks for the catch x

September 16, 2013  

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